May 13, 2026


On The Upside with Marley

Learning to set boundaries without guilt

Many people struggle with boundaries not because they don’t understand them, but because they feel uncomfortable enforcing them. Saying no can feel harsh. Creating limits can feel selfish. And choosing your own time or energy over someone else’s request can bring a quiet sense of guilt that lingers longer than the decision itself.

A boundary is not a rejection of others. It is a recognition of yourself.

When you avoid setting boundaries, you may keep the peace temporarily, but it often comes at a cost. Overcommitment, resentment, and exhaustion tend to follow. You begin to give from a place that is no longer sustainable, and eventually even small requests can feel overwhelming.

Setting a boundary does not require conflict. It requires clarity. It is not about pushing people away, but about being honest about what you can realistically give. When done calmly and consistently, boundaries often strengthen relationships rather than weaken them, because they remove unspoken expectations.

The discomfort you feel is not a sign you are doing something wrong. It is a sign you are doing something unfamiliar. Over time, that discomfort fades, replaced by a sense of balance and control.

People who respect you will adjust. Those who don’t often reveal why the boundary was needed in the first place.

Setting boundaries is not about changing how others behave. It is about deciding what you will allow to shape your time, your energy, and your peace.


Common Things That Aren’t What They Seem

  • “Average” isn’t typical – The average can be influenced by extremes and may not represent most cases.
  • Silence is rarely empty – There is almost always background noise your brain filters out.
  • Multitasking reduces efficiency – Switching tasks quickly feels productive but often slows actual output.
  • Fresh batteries can seem weak – Device calibration sometimes misreads new energy levels initially.
  • Coincidences feel meaningful – The brain naturally looks for patterns, even where none exist.

Famous Canadians

Who is this young Canadian? (Click or Hover to Discover)

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There’s No Hierarchy Among Thieves

A thief stuck a pistol in a man’s ribs and said, “Give me your money.” The gentleman, shocked by the sudden attack, said, “You cannot do this, I’m a congressman!” The thief replied, “In that case, give me MY money!”


Elementary Dear Watson

Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson went on a camping trip. After a good meal and a bottle of wine, they laid down for the night, and went to sleep. Some hours later, Holmes awoke and nudged his faithful friend. “Watson, look up at the sky and tell me what you see.” Watson replied, “I see millions and millions of stars.” “What does that tell you?” Watson pondered for a minute. “Astronomically, it tells me that there are millions of galaxies, and potentially billions of planets. Astrologically, I observe that Saturn is in Leo. Horologically, I deduce that the time is approximately a quarter past three. Theologically, I can see that God is all powerful and that we are small and insignificant. Meteorologically, I suspect that we will have a beautiful day tomorrow. What does it tell you?” Holmes was silent for a minute, then spoke. “It tells me that someone has stolen our tent.”


Just Enough Info, For A Raise

Phil walks into his boss’s office one day and says, “Sir, I’ll be honest with you. I know the economy isn’t great, but I’ve got three companies after me, and I’d like to respectfully ask for a raise.”

After a few minutes of haggling, the boss finally agrees to give him a 5 percent raise, and Phil happily gets up to leave.

“By the way,” the boss asks as Phil heads out, “which three companies are after you?”

Phil replies, “The electric company, the water company, and the phone company.”


The Tree Of Reality

An organization is like a tree full of monkeys, all on different limbs at different levels. The monkeys on top look down and see a tree full of smiling faces. The monkeys on the bottom look up and see nothing but asses.



Editors Quote Book

“Honoring your own boundaries is the clearest message to others to honor them, too.”

Gina Greenlee


Trivia Quiz

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1. What is the smallest country in the world by total area?
Vatican City is the smallest independent country in the world by both area and population.

2. Which scientist developed the AC (Alternating Current) system
Nikola Tesla.

3. What is the main ingredient in traditional Japanese miso soup?
Miso soup is primarily made from fermented soybean paste combined with broth and other simple ingredients.

4. Which planet is known for having the most extensive ring system?
Saturn has the most extensive and visible ring system of any planet in our solar system.

5. What is the longest river in South America?
The Amazon River is the longest river in South America and carries the largest volume of water globally.

6. Which element has the chemical symbol Na?
Sodium is represented by the chemical symbol Na, derived from its Latin name natrium.

7. What is the capital city of Australia?
Canberra is the capital city of Australia, located between Sydney and Melbourne.

8. Which organ in the human body is responsible for filtering blood?
The kidneys filter waste products from the blood and regulate fluid balance in the body.

9. What famous structure was built as a tomb for an emperor in India?
The Taj Mahal was built as a mausoleum by Emperor Shah Jahan for his wife Mumtaz Mahal.

10. Which gas is most commonly used to inflate balloons for scientific experiments?
Helium is commonly used because it is lighter than air and non-flammable, making it safe for experiments.

 


Your Horoscope

For Amusement Only


Aries Mar. 21 – Apr. 19: Setting limits brings clarity. Focus on what truly matters and allow unnecessary commitments to fall away naturally.

Taurus Apr. 20 – May 20: Stability improves when expectations are clear. Define your priorities and protect your time with confidence.

Gemini May 21 – Jun. 20: Honest communication helps resolve tension. Express your needs directly without over-explaining or second-guessing yourself.

Cancer Jun. 21 – Jul. 22: Emotional balance returns when you create space. Give yourself time to reset before taking on new demands.

Leo Jul. 23 – Aug. 22: Confidence grows through self-respect. Saying no when needed strengthens both your energy and your influence.

Virgo Aug. 23 – Sep. 22: Clarity replaces overwhelm. A structured approach helps you stay focused and avoid unnecessary distractions.

Libra Sep. 23 – Oct. 22: Balance improves through boundaries. Choose where to invest your attention and let go of what drains you.

Scorpio Oct. 23 – Nov. 21: Focus sharpens results. Protect your energy and avoid situations that create unnecessary stress.

Sagittarius Nov. 22 – Dec. 21: Freedom increases with clarity. Knowing your limits helps you move forward with greater confidence.

Capricorn Dec. 22 – Jan. 19: Discipline supports progress. Clear priorities allow you to build momentum without feeling scattered.

Aquarius Jan. 20 – Feb. 18: Independent thinking helps you adapt. Trust your perspective and avoid relying too heavily on outside input.

Pisces Feb. 19 – Mar. 20: Reflection brings understanding. Taking time to reset helps you approach challenges with renewed clarity.



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Odd But True

Chinese Car Company patents a voice-activated “In Vehicle Toilet
A Chinese car company has been granted a patent for a voice activated, in-vehicle toilet that slides out from under a passenger seat.

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Scientists Discover Immortal Jellyfish!
The immortal jellyfish can revert its adult cells back to an earlier polyp stage, effectively restarting its life cycle. Instead of dying, it transforms and begins again. Native to oceans worldwide, this tiny creature fascinates scientists studying aging, regeneration, and the possibility of biological immortality in nature. Life insurance salesmen are scratching their heads.

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“Goat elected mayor of small town (and re-elected twice)”
In March 2019, a 3-year-old Nubian goat named Lincoln was elected honorary mayor of Fair Haven, Vermont, winning with 13 votes to raise funds for a new playground. The Nubian goat took the oath of office, wore a sash, and served a one-year term in the town of 2,500 people.


The Immortal Jellyfish

 


The Best Patient

Three doctors are discussing which types of patients they prefer. Doctor Watson says, ”I prefer librarians. All their organs are alphabetized.” Doctor Fitzpatrick says, ”I prefer mathematicians. All their organs are numbered.” Doctor Ahn says, ”I prefer lawyers. They’re gutless, heartless, brainless, spineless, and their heads and rear-ends are interchangeable.”


The Scientist & The Philosopher

A scientist and a philosopher are being chased by a hungry lion. The scientist makes some quick calculations and says, “It’s no good trying to outrun it. It’s catching up!” The philosopher keeps a little ahead and replies, “I’m not trying to outrun the lion, I’m trying to outrun you!”


No Respect

Why is Christmas just like the day at the office? You do all the work and the fat guy with the suit gets all the credit.


Use ‘Beans’ In A Sentence

A teacher asked her students to use the word “beans” in a sentence. “My father grows beans,” said one girl. “My mother cooks beans,” said a boy. A third student spoke up, “We are all human beans.”


The Last Word

“Respect for your own limits is the foundation of everything that lasts.”


13 Comments

  1. YKW McKenna says:

    And our heartfelt thanx to you, Brian Garvey for coming up with the PERK idea 30 years ago. I and many others have enjoyed and will continue to enjoy the publication for hopefully years to come.
    I commend you!

  2. Dave says:

    WELL DONE !
    The May 1st edition was the best I’ve read since becoming a follower. Positively Speaking……logical and smack on, the quiz, difficult but for the first time ever I’m 8 for 8! The bog island vid…who’d a thunk?
    I can’t be all positive though.
    The sand which board with I b4 e was a tough one for my aging eyes.
    Lastly, could your font be slightly larger with the adds just a wee bit smaller.
    So many magazines, internet articles, etc have yet to learn that their main audience is aging and eyes are not what they were of days past.
    Keep up the good work.
    PS: Adds work. I’ve used more than one company you’ve listed with total satisfaction (politicians excepted)

    • MGraphics says:

      Hi Dave. Firstly thanks so much for the comments. I’m not the writer of this stuff just the web guy. While reading anything that you find is too small on the internet generally all you need to do is hit your Control and the plus key or minus key together to increase or decrease the size of things. I’m afraid if we reduce the ads any smaller they won’t be readable and of course it’s due to their investment in the Perkolator that the publication can actually exist 🙂 Happy Spring.

    • Nina Davies says:

      why do l keep getting the same perkolator every month for the S Muskoka edition. this is the same issue running from Jan.2026.

      • Hi Nina

        The Perkolator doesn’t actually publish monthly, it publishes weekly. I cannot see what you’re seeing of course. However I have reviewed the website thoroughly and including the last 5 weeks Perkolator’s and there’s no duplication. The only thing I can determine is if you’re clicking on an old email from last month and expecting last months perkolator. Clicking on the link in your subscription email will always take you to the latest edition regardless of how old the email is. Perhaps that’s where the issue lies.

        Thanks for reading!

  3. Howard Brooks says:

    Today’s edition is the same as last weeks.

  4. Clara says:

    Please don’t change anything, I look forward to my weekly paper

  5. YKW McKenna says:

    Why, when I’m already a subscriber must the pop up SUBSCRIBE for double your pleasure pop up in the first place? Oh, I just realized, you can’t have pop ups in your printed newsletter.
    Silly me.

  6. Jessica Thibodeau says:

    Lately your articles seem to be very anti-woman. I’m most certainly going to stop reading!

    • Brian Garvey says:

      Good day Jessica. I do hope that you are still reading The Perkolator. Although you don’t say which articles you found objectionable, I can assure you that we, at The Perkolator, are not anti-women. In fact, if we look back to past issues men are the Butt of more jokes and stories than are women. In our world we need to find the humour in our words, habits, situations, and actions more often, whether we are male of female. The ability to laugh at ourselves and our humanness allows us to cope better with the stresses in life. I hope that you will consider continuing to read The Perkolator, understanding that we are only joking and mean no offense.
      Best Regards.
      Brian G

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